Teaching By Example Turns Hard Days Into Lessons

We explore determination as a teachable, visible habit that kids absorb by watching us. From a slow start to 17,250 downloads, we show how small goals, persistence, and self-compassion turn moms into mentors.

• reframing from nurturer to mentor
• why modeling beats lecturing for kids
• defining clear, achievable goals
• staying persistent through slow seasons
• learning from challenges with flexibility
• practicing self-discipline without perfectionism
• reconnecting to motivation rooted in children’s needs
• simple habits that make resilience visible at home

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As Mom's we are more than nurturers we are Mentors to our children.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And Purpose Of The Show
• 0:21 From Mom To Mentor Mindset
• 2:32 Introducing Determination
• 2:52 Podcast Journey And Milestone
• 4:28 Why Determination Matters For Moms
• 6:07 Practical Ways To Stay Determined
• 10:30 Modeling Resilience For Kids
• 13:45 Closing And Listener Feedback

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:01

Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom to Mentor podcast. If this is your first time joining, welcome. If you are a repeat listener, thank you for your loyalty. Hey, it's a new week, a new month, and new expectations. Remember, you are more than just a mom and a nurturer and a provider. You are a mentor, meaning you are setting that example for your children as it relates to their behavior and how they conduct themselves in life. And so this podcast is designed to encourage, motivate, and also educate, that reminding you, you can do this. Yeah, there are going to be some hard days, and you're like, you know what, I just don't have it in me. How do I know? Yeah. Been there, done that, have the t-shirt. I have several t-shirts. When it comes to being a parent and a single parent, at that, there are going to be more challenging days than not, but you'll get through it. And so, as a result of this podcast, and what I'm trying to introduce to you is that you can set that example for your children. You can be that mentor. And while I'm providing you with examples and seeds or character seeds that you can plant within your children, just keep in mind they are visual. They are going to adapt to what they see before they adapt to what they hear. And we want to get out of the correcting mode, mom. And as I was raising my children, I was doing a lot of correcting, but I wasn't doing a lot of educating. Why wasn't I doing a lot of educating? Because I didn't know I was supposed to. And that's what makes this podcast different. Because I'm going to give you the tools and the resources that you can tap into as it relates to educating your children. All right, so let's get the party started for the day. We're talking about determination today. And so I'm going to make this a little more personal than the other episodes because I am on a journey of really trying to embrace determination. And it links back to this podcast that I started three plus years ago. And thankfully, as of this weekend, I'm at 17,250 downloads. So thank you, all of you all that come back and you that are just arriving per se and listening to this podcast. Thank you so much all over the world, all over the country. Wow. So I must be doing something right. So again, this topic links back to determination because certainly I never envisioned that I would have 17,250 downloads of this podcast. And it's like, wow, and wow. And it started off slow. I'm not gonna beat around the bush related to that. It started off real slow. And that's where determination comes in at. I've tweaked some things since I've started this podcast. As many of you know that have been following me or are following me. It started off with Single Moms United, right? Because I didn't know what topic or label that I wanted to give this podcast. But I know that I'm a single mom. I know that I was able to accomplish some things throughout life with my kids and getting my degree and doing some other things. And again, alone, right? That's why it started off with Single Moms United. But as I'm transitioning and moving forward and as I'm talking through things, now is time to update the title to Mom to Mentor, because we are more than just nurturers and providers. One thing that I know with my kids as they were growing up, they did a lot of mimicking of my behaviors. That's how I know that we have to go to the next level, ladies, as far as what we allow our children to see. And also how we are providing that example to them. We can talk until we're blue in the face, but they are going to pay attention to what they see. And this is going to make it easier for you because now you don't have to sit down and the conversation doesn't have to be uncomfortable. Now you're trying to find the right words, you're trying to find this, you're trying to explain it so that they understand. And all they have to do is see you do it. It's just that simple, mom. So today's topic is really more so for you. And once I share this with you, then your children are going to see you adapting these behaviors and incorporating these behaviors in your life because that's how they learn. All right. So today's topic again is about determination. And as a mom, we're going to have hard days. You're just going to have that. And so when you have those hard days, it's easy to give up. It's easy to say, I'm done. I'm finished. I don't want to do this anymore. I'm good. Let's hit restart, reset on my life because I didn't intend for it to transact this way. And that's fair. That is absolutely fair to have that mentality. But you can't act on it because the kids are here. It's a done deal. So you can't act on it, but it's fair to have that mindset. But you have to become determined that I'm going to get through this. Yeah. Ask me how I know all the challenges that I went through with raising my kids. I was determined. One setback is not going to put a period at the end of the sentence. It's only a comma. When we think about determination, why do we need it? Determination is crucial for success as it involves the commitment to achieve goals, regardless of obstacles. We don't give up when faced with obstacles or challenges. When you think of the word determination, link it to don't give up. That's it. That's the bottom line. I don't care what you encounter, keep going, moms. Keep moving. Why? Because your children are there. You can't go back and change things. So you have to move forward. You have to develop that determined mindset that I'm going to get through this. All right. So I'm going to give you some practical advice that you can use to help you achieve your goals and so that you remain determined. The first one is set clear goals. Define what you want to achieve and create specific and measurable goals to stay focused. Again, back to my podcast or this podcast. I don't need 100 moms to come and say, oh, great, you did wonderful and I'm doing this, I'm doing that. My goal has always been one, to make a difference with one. Why did I set my goal at one? Because it's more achievable. It's just that simple. So if one young lady comes back and says, hey, thank you so much. I really appreciate your podcast. I've adopted some things based on what you shared, and I've tried to incorporate it in my life. And as a result of that, I'm seeing some positive changes. And guess what, ladies? I've gotten that. And I've gotten it multiple times. So I've achieved my goal. Something else to consider. Stay persistent. Use strategies to overcome obstacles and maintain motivation over time. I told you I started off with one name, one title, and now I'm transitioning to another title again to be more aligned with the goals of where I'm trying to make that achievement as it relates to you adopting and being able to educate your children. Next, learn from challenges. Understand that determination is not about stubbornness, it's about resilience and the ability to adapt. Again, when I started my podcast, I was I've had several microphones over time. I used a different software. So I used different things because I didn't like the way I sounded. So let me go over here and try this. Let me try this new microphone. Let me see how to better position where I'm doing my recording. So all of these things I take into consideration because I want to stay persistent. I'm not gonna let one thing stop this podcast from happening because it's too important. Again, learn from challenges. We're also talking about practice self-discipline. Develop habits that increase your chances of reaching your goals and stay committed to them. Now, initially, I said I'm gonna produce one episode a week. Depending on what's going on in my life, sometimes it's been produce an episode a month, unfortunately. But I still say that while I didn't meet my expectation of producing an episode every week, the good news is I didn't stop. I slowed down, but I didn't stop. And that's what we're talking about. Practice that self-discipline, mom. Whatever you're going through, whatever those challenges are, embrace it. You can slow down, and that's fair, but don't stop. And then reflect on your motivation. Regularly assess what drives you and ensure your goals are meaningful and relevant to your aspirations. Yeah, what motivates you? And long story short, ladies, for you as moms, it should be your children. I want to be the best parent that I know how to be. Not a perfect parent, but a good parent. And I've told you time and time again that a good mom teaches. It doesn't mean you're perfect, it doesn't mean you're gonna get it right all the time, but it means that I am focused on teaching my children so they can be successful in this life. When it's time for them to go out and adventure on their own, I want them to not take life so serious that I don't that they're saying, I don't want to do this anymore. But saying, hey, this is a challenge my mom told me about, and this is what she said that I should do. Or this is how I saw her handle her challenge. Or challenges. I'm sorry, because it's going to be multiple. Because as soon as you get over one, here comes another challenge that you're going to have to address. And it starts with you. Get motivated, mom, because your kids are watching. Now, by applying these principles, you can enhance your determination and improve your chances of achieving your objective. And what is your objective? Being the best mom that you know how to be. All right, ladies. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. If you did, leave me some feedback. I'd love to hear from you because we are determined as moms. Yeah, that's part of our character. It's we're determined. We're more than just nurturers and providers. We are examples and we are determined to not only meet our goal as being a good parent, but exceeding that goal. All right, you have a great day. Take care.